Rules to live by when visiting a Korean for the first time.

It is appropriate to bring a gift of fruit, flowers, or cakes for the host, and candy for the children. If the host refuses to accept the gift, continue to insist that he or she accept it. He or she is refusing in order to be polite.
If it is a special occasion, such as a birthday, also bring a present for the honored guest. If you are attending a wedding, a 60th birthday party, or a funeral, put money in a white envelope with your name written on the front.

Do not be suprised if the host does not open your gift while you are present. It is considered impolite to open gifts in front of the gift-giver.
Shoes should be removed before entering a house or temple. Do not sit with your back to a temple when you put your shoes back on. Always wear socks without holes in case you remove your shoes.

Honored guests are often asked to sing at social gatherings. Be prepared!
Food and drink will be offered. Do not refuse. This will hurt the host's feelings. Do not begin to eat until the oldest male member of the family begins. Some Koreans think that throwing away rice is wasteful. Follow your host's lead. If he finishes all of his rice, then do the same. If he does not finish all of it, then do not finish yours unless you want more.

Personal questions are often asked in order to get to know you and establish your position in the Korean social order. You will almost always be asked your age. Unless the question makes you very uncomfortable, answer it. If you do not wish to answer a question, change the subject politely.

Do not compliment anything in a Korean family's house. They will give it to you and insist you take it.

Dress nicely and conservatively.

Do not fill your own glass or bowl. If you want something, hold your glass or bowl with your right hand and support it with your left while your friend fills it. If your friend needs more food or drink, fill the glass or bowl using your right hand supported by the left hand. Using only one hand when pouring or passing is considered disrespectful.

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