ive just registered for this thing. im 20 and ive been living in korea for 12 years as an army brat and seen all sorts of harda** parents but i cant say ive seen anything like this.

i have this girlfriend. one time she stayed out and wouldnt go home before her curfew; i remember telling her repeatedly to go home but she wouldnt listen. she ends up living at my place for like 5 days.

her dad starts sending her texts like threatening to go after so and so or to make threatening threats in general and eventually she just turns off her phone.

all of our friends started finding out one by one and so forth (you know how it goes) and everyone just started telling her to go home. i think she grew a little more defiant due to that. anyways... i finally convinced her to go home after like 5 days.

i didnt hear from her for a day.

one of my close friends (who is a girl and is close with my girlfriend also) tells me that they have some insight to something that may have happened. she tells me my girlfriend has a blackeye.

i finally to meet her offpost hanging out with all the wrong people at a 711 with chairs and all that. i saw her eye, it wasnt horrible but you didnt have to ask. she told me her dad tried to asphixiate her with his hand, he hit her until she fell and wouldnt stop kicking her until she got back up. he wanted to know who she was with. well, i guess he assumed it was me.

he doesnt really know me at all. but said he wants to hunt me down and KILL me.

now. im pretty sure thats illegal. it kind of tends to freak me out.

but this is where it deals more with yongsan.

i couldnt convince her to report this so i lied to my girl and told her i was busy while i ran to the highschool, acs building, chapel, hostpital, and any other relevant place besides the mp station (i didnt want to become involved, just help my girlfriend out with this mess). yeah, i guess god called in sick or something because no one was there to help me.

after my friend finally gets her sober, my friend calls an investigator or something from the police station and requests a meeting. i didnt want to get involved so i left it to my friend to go with her to the meeting and just be with her for the duration.

well because everything happened off post (they live offpost) the mps had to hand it over to the kps. it had been like 4 hours in until they carried through with this. i dont know how complicated it should be or shouldve been but regardless, there are NO mp escorts with her like in the movies. shes stuck with my friend and her dad (my FRIEND'S dad).

the kps give her two choices: sue your dad or get deported. and apparently its ok for a single male parent to hit a single female child in korea? like its not illegal? yeah what the hell is that eh? so they sit there lolligagging or whathaveyou before they take any action. by that time, another 4 hours has passed and her dad is there. yea, the ABUSIVE one. and im being updated via my friend. text messages and whatnot. my girlfriend decides to get deported asap. im happy with this. she wants to be with her mom in virginia, she wants to see her sister, her friends, her virginia. and thats awesome that i could partake in something only someone such as a paragon of integrity would partake in. makes me giggle.

the kps turn it back over to the mps.

the investigator has to tell my friend and her dad to beat it while the investigator hands my girlfriend over to a "social worker". now, im not sure what that is. but it sounds legit.

she has to go to the 121 hostpital and has to get a physical and stuff. and shes alone. with her dad. and some... "social worker". they say you can stay at the hostpital tonight, go home with your dad, or find some place to stay.

i got a call from her.

she didnt sound so good, but she wanted to stay with me so i (in the middle of a mega sweet party) ditched and went home to meet her and let her in. she never showed up so i ended up dozing off and waking up the next day (today).

i really had to know what happened to her.

i call my friend and ask about the situation. she sounded super sick. crazy cough. she said my girlfriend was still in the hostpital, she had been diagnosed with something like bronchidis (sp?). she mustve gotten my friend sick too. and that wasnt the bad news.

the bad news is that after they make their scans or whatever they said her bruises werent 'brutal' enough for an act of child abuse. her dad has a history of ANGER MANAGEMENT. he works for security. he said he would KILL ME. what the hell is going on these days? my girl is getting the sh*t beat out of her and does everyone just not take her seriously? is her dad pulling strings? is she lonely?

this is ridiculous.

this is disgusting.

what do they think? that shes just another brat trying to get back at her parents for grounding her from nintendo?

today im going into that hostpital and im going to find her and do what i can. im not exactly sure what im going to do but. im going to just make it up as i go along. and if her dad is there... i dont know, i have no respect for him. but i was one that convinced her to report this. i cant help but feel i should act.

yongsan garrison - thanks for NOTHING

You said you are 20, right?? You talk about "child abuse" that you girlfriend is dealing with, how old is this girlfriend??

yeah im 20, shes 17. i figured it wasnt legal for her to sue her dad at that age, making her a child until shes 18. is that right?

Hard to understand the story, but I can't tell if the girl is a U.S. Military dependant or not. Sounds like it. Either way, you should stay away from the situation. Obviously it has been reported to proper authorities. You have been with an underage girl who allegedly stayed with you for 5 days. You are in big trouble if that fact gets on record. She will be taken care of. If you get involved in any way, you may be charged with a crime. Or her father may well kill you! Shut up, stay away from the cell phone and away from the hospital. Don't be more stupid than you have been already! Just be glad that you are not charged already. If the MP's come for you, tell the truth. If not, consider yourself lucky. Anything you say or do, or write here, or text on your cell phone, can be used against you! See a Chaplain if you just have to talk to someone.

Charged with what? The military age of consent is 16. He is 20, she is 17. as long as the age difference isn't more then 3 years he is fine. The fact that he stood up when everyone else was doing sh!t is a testament to this young man's character.

since when is trying to help another human being stupid? Even if he would get in trouble should he just sit by and do nothing? That's chicken sh!t and cowardly . I can't believe you would tell him that.

I think it's funny that people get all uppity about a 20 year old having sex with 17 year old and not a father beating the living sh!t out of his daughter.

If I was her I wouldn't have gone home either. No wonder she didn't answer the phone. This is not a one time thing. he didn't just hit her this time. He did it before. There is a reason the she was acting like she was. I think someone needs to take the father out back and show him what it feels like. I would be more then happy to do it for him. Open his eyes or at least blacken them for him.

Military age of consent? That applies to her father, (the military member). I doubt if she is military. Probably is a US citizen. Seems like she is being taken care of. Agree, her father needs much more than a lesson or two in single parenting! He is not a good choice to live with. Going to Virginia sound good.
Variations in age of consent run from 12-to 21 throughout the world, and depend on jurisdiction. The litigation is so encumbered it would be facitious to synthesize.
Be sure of the difference between advocating violence and threatening violence when posting on the internet!

WOW........That statment made me laugh....thanks DrWorm I needed that after the 3 weeks I've had.....

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For military and SOFA it is 16. I've read that local Korean law varies from 13 to 16. Go here to check it out

this is what i know now. shes got this social worker. this old korean lady that apparently revealed to her dad after everything thats happened, her location. her dad comes storming into the emergency room where he is stopped and told to leave. he throws a fit and eventually the mps have to come escort him out. i come by and see my girlfriend and shes a little scared and all but things seem to be progressing to an ultimately good conclusion. as in, she leaves korea. whats funny about this social worker is that she ALSO told my gf to "run" out the back door and that it would be ok. ok as in what? having all the charges dropped, ending up at her dads house again, and getting a slap on the wrist? i ran this by my dad and he told me to let my gf know she has a patient advocate/representative. and so i did and all but not before this social worker ONCE AGAIN did some unheard of sh*t. she brought my gfs DAD into the one place he wasnt supposed to find her. she strides in there and asks devon if she wants to see her dad and she says no. case closed, get out. but she gets her CO-worker to walk right in there with him right after that. that doesnt make any sense at all. so my friend who i spoke of earlier calls me and lets me know so i dont walk in on the bigman himself (thank god i overslept). when they leave, i come in and shes on the verge of tears. theyre sending her to a foster care in taegu or something until the paperwork is sorted to get her to va. she said her dad may very well get fired even without me pressing charges on his death threat. but if he does, he'll only get kicked out back to va. i hope some kind of restraining order can then, go into effect. regardless, i told her about this patient advocate thing. i really hope my gf, my friend, and i dont meet any MORE resistance. i dont think that hag of a social worker has a firm grip on whats going on here. and plus, i reckon her a$$ gets fired for telling her to just make a RUN for it and bring her jacked up dad right TO her. i guess a foster care in taegu is the best they can do for now and at least she wouldnt be near her dad and all. i still havent played any role to the investigators (nice people, as a friend i did meet them though), her jacked up dad (only what he imagines), the social worker, or the hostpital. i hope this is over soon. theyre letting her actually go OUTSIDE without an escort tomorrow for school.

thanks drworm and mrjoe for your advice/insight, im doing the best i can

That website maybe good if you are not in the military....

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